Posted by messadivoce on December 22, 2004, at 22:05:16
In reply to Re: Would love to hear others' experiences.. » LG04, posted by Pfinstegg on December 22, 2004, at 20:30:52
I like this thread. When I was with my old T, it was the little girl part of me that was so attached to him. So much of the work we did together was to help that child in me speak. She did not trust him at all at first. She thought he was just like her dad and was going to take advantage of her being vulnerable. But he won that child's trust. She had the strong desire so many times to reach out her arms to him, to ask him to hold her. She would have wrapped her arms around his waist and held on for dear life had she had the chance.
The adult me is much more rational, but it dealt with the child by becoming attracted to my T instead of seeing the childlike feelings for what they were. Often we would speak of how I felt in my childhood, and then my T would look at me with those deep brown eyes of his and say, "But you're a woman now." He could always speak to the adult me and keep the child in me safe at the same time.
With my new T, the child and the woman in me do seperate, but there is less contrast between them. Because I try to be open with her, I end up feeling like the vulnerable child a lot of the time, but that is a feeling I experience with people who are not my T. Stuff gets blurry sometimes, doesn't it?
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