Posted by Dinah on December 19, 2004, at 9:28:32
In reply to Oh thanks, but..., posted by Toph on December 18, 2004, at 10:06:24
I think I am uncomfortable with compliments, although I like them just fine. I realized not too very long ago that while I don't reject them exactly, that I tend to ignore them completely. Probably even worse than rejection. Perhaps it feels immodest to acknowledge them, or I feel like they aren't deserved.
I'm not sure. I have all sorts of idiosyncratic personal ideas (eye contact and name usage being two others that spring immediatedly to mind) of what's polite that totally violate societal norms and lead me to be impolite. My therapist thinks that's very schizotypal of me.
I need to work on my thank you skills.
(My son says "oh" when someone says something nice to him. I'm kind of wondering if we both have the same problem. We were both complimented rather too much when we were little, only child and all that, and I think it leads to an uneasy recognition that no one's that wonderful.)
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