Posted by Toph on December 18, 2004, at 10:06:24
I don't know why, but I've always had trouble accepting a compliment. I've noticed here where support is the expectation that complimenting each other is the norm butI feel awkward when someone says something nice to me. My psychiatrist once said that it is a greater conceit to reject a compliment than to seek one. I suppose he meant that it is conceited to expect a greater compliment than one is given. But I think rejecting compliments goes to the insecurities I have and my tendency to believe that I am not worthy of praise. Bipolars learn self-loathing from repeated depression and to mistrust and guard against feeling too good. Society seems to be suspicious of self-doubting individuals as if to be timid is disingenuous - like the beating Sally Field got when she insecurely said, "you like me, you really, really like me!" Anyway, I was wondering if any of you are made uncomfortable by a compliment. Please don't think I'm fishing for one here, I hate myself enough already.
-Toph
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