Posted by fallsfall on December 14, 2004, at 12:31:19
In reply to Re: Nope. » fallsfall, posted by annierose on December 13, 2004, at 17:09:40
> Hi Fallsfall -
> Sorry you are not feeling too well right now.
> Please don't beat yourself up. There isn't a right way to do therapy.*** I know there isn't a right way, but it seems like there is a *wrong* way - and it just feels like I tend to find the wrong way.
And you are not supposed to have the answers, nor your therapist ... as frustrating as that might be. I know I wish sometimes my T would just give some, but how would she know what was right for me, but me. But I do think that she can ask some questions (in a guided, or not so guided way) that help us answer our own questions.
*** But eventually he has very solid ideas about what is "helpful" and what is "not helpful". Or I'll say something and I can tell that he is disappointed that I am thinking that way. I know I don't know how to make good choices (if I did, I wouldn't need to be there), but I have no reference for making other choices. Am I supposed to choose the thing that makes no sense to me? That doesn't make much sense either.
You are not an idiot, please don't say that about yourself. I always find your posts very insightful and kind hearted. This is a hard journey (therapy) and full of bumps along the way. I, too, go to a psychodynamic T and it's hard work (all types of therapy are). But you are digging deep and that can sometimes bring up old hurts. Thinking of you. Annie
*** Thanks, Annie.
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