Posted by antigua on December 9, 2004, at 23:07:11
In reply to Having hard time with feeling vulnerable, posted by Poet on December 9, 2004, at 21:54:48
Poet, please try not to be so hard on yourself. I think you're doing really great.
I understand the uneasiness of "letting" your husband support you financially for a period of time. I feel guilty about it sometimes, but I know this time will pass and once again I will be an equal partner financially.
Also, it's not like you can switch the light on and say, OK I'm going to lean on my T and really trust her to hold me emotionally. That's a big risk, and it often happens gradually. If you build the trust w/her, it will most likely happen. But I could never force it, no matter how hard I tried, and it was very frustrating. You can take baby steps though. Would that make it more manageable? Start w/something you need from her that would be most comfortable asking for?
best,
antigua
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