Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 7, 2004, at 0:19:37
In reply to Re: transference questions, posted by fluffycat on December 6, 2004, at 23:47:32
Hey ya Fluffy glad to see you found this and you are more than welcome :) As to the unmet needs thing if it rings true you may want to mention to your T that you THINK you may have some tranferance issues with your pdoc and then tell him what you told us...the insight into you will help you both help you if that makes sense...You sound VERY introspective that is great really.
I do not know on the going through the book deal does your T go over it with you??? Does it have homework and all? How long you been in therapy?..It takes time.. The right T is a blessing to have. A good T is a person who cares and to talk with freely on everything and not be afraid or ashamed..its cool ya know :)> Thanks for the response. I think the unmet needs thing is so on target it rather affected me a lot to realize it. I don't have many people in my life right now and I'm so lonely for company, especially someone with those qualities I appreciate but don't seem to come across often enough (or at all). I'm also in an uncomfortable living situation half the time which doesn't help.
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> As far as therapy goes, part of me feels like I just don't get it. I don't yet see how going thru a book (on cognitive therapy) will help me change habits I've had my entire life. I know I need to give it a chance but just haven't felt like doing so yet. Other things keep cropping up, it seems.
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> > Hi Fluffycat and welcome to the site. I think it would depend on if you really want to explore this issue with your T..You can ask he not tell your PDOC as in off the record. It may help you and you know a lot of people may not agree with me but sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and you may just be attracted to the guys looks or his personality and would have been had you met him any other way. IF you talk to your T about it you may want to think ahead about what you find draws you to your PDOC like you said there are several things...these things IF this is transferance all say something about unresolved or unmet needs you have had and or have from others in your life often parents but not aways...I hope this helps some...and best of luck please let us know how it went ok?
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> > > > I'm a newbie here but this seemed like more of an appropriate forum for my questions.
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> > > > I've been seeing a psychiatrist for about 5-6 months now, and a therapist at the same place for about 1-2 months. I recently realized I have a big crush on my psychiatrist. The thing is, from the little I understand about transference I don't talk to him like I would my therapist...he's not my counselor except as far as meds go. But he seems really caring and nice (and intelligent...and funny). So...is this transference? What exactly is transference anyway and how is it supposed to help me in this situation? And finally, is this something I should mention to my therapist? It gets a little painful at times because there are several things I really like about him, but maybe it will just go away in time and I shouldn't 'rock the boat', so to speak. Thanks in advance for any advice.
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