Posted by Susan47 on November 23, 2004, at 10:26:28
In reply to Re: What's real vs. what's transference?thanks, posted by rockymtnhi on November 22, 2004, at 18:08:38
ShortElise, read your post and have to say I think your understanding of therapy and transference is true for me; and I've been raised with so much fear that I used to transfer to *everybody*, men and women alike, and it stopped mne from living my own life, because of course everything I did was perceived, in my mind, as being wrong somehow.
My therapist was defensive, even though he stated that he wasn't; there were certain things he wasn't comfortable with, but I just never did figure out what they were.
He wrote me a letter a while back, and it was extremely defensive and full of transference of his own, although I could tell he tried very hard not to give that impression .. very strict along the guidelines, much like a lawyer. I pull it out once in a while, when I'm feeling strong about myself, and I read it for interest' sake. He never did send me a proper letter of termination, what he sent me was a missive of self-defence and arm's-length pushing-away. Even in his letter, he never did go into any detail about why he terminated me, he couldn't bring himself to be honest about it, whatever it was, and the closest he ever came to telling me was this, "The way you are, the way I am". What is a patient supposed to *infer* from that??? It could literally include any possibility within the frame of human interaction. And of course, a patient in transference (AND gg was right, he transferred too, although I wasn't willing to see that in the summer) is going through many types of interaction, in her head.
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