Posted by shortelise on November 11, 2004, at 13:20:18
In reply to Re: Maintenance Therapy, posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 11, 2004, at 8:55:06
Miss H/C, There are enough twits in the world, plenty to go around, to make anyone wary. Maybe we are born with a specific number of them on our lifelist and once we get through them all, there are no more.
That's a funny idea.Have you talked about this experience of rejection in therapy? Don't we choose the people we care for? I think I have always made a point of caring for people I knew would care for me back. Most of the time. Maybe there is psychopathy in that - no, I'm sure there is. There have been those who have not cared for me in the way I would have chosen, granted. And because I tried to choose only those who would care, when they didn't, aie!
Therapy has turned out to be in part about overlaying old experiences with new ones.
As I said, it is so important to me to be able to trust my perceptions. And I have learned with my T when to question them, when I need to ask myself if I am projecting or perceiving.
The thing I like most about my T is the way he cares for me. Who he is, I don't really know. I know lots of things about him, have seen him an hour a week for more than six years, but all I really know about him is that he is a good therapist for me.
The thing that makes for less humilitaion about caring so much for these damn T's is that they do everything they can to help us to feel that way - it's such an important part of the process. So it's not like we saw them across a crowded room and were smitten. We simply have participated in psychotherapy. And how we deal with those feelings, where we go with them, HOW we feel them, is, I believe, and I could be wrong, a crucial part of therapy for many of us.
I am thinking this through as I write. And the above feels really true for me.
You know you don't have to go there with your T; I don't mean to imply that if you don't, you're not doing therapy "right". You know what's right for you, I don't.
I'm so glad you find my insights valuable. I find yours so too.
ShortE
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