Posted by shortelise on November 9, 2004, at 14:40:07
In reply to Re: Maintenance Therapy, posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 9, 2004, at 12:32:39
Are you sure?
They get used to us, they like us, and they watch us go through all the crap and see us come out of the other side in way better shape. There must be a great deal of satisfaction in that.
My T once said to me that it might be easier for both of us if I kept seeing him once a week forever, but it would be unethical. Unethical in the sense that the point was for me to be whole, and certainly the point is not for me to have a psychiatrist appendage forever.
Miss H/C, I have to believe that my T likes me, that he likes to see me, that he feels affection for me. Well, I believe it most of the time.
When you say seeing him less frequently frees up his schedule. The same would have been true a year ago. The same will be true a year from now.
What does he say when you tell him it feels like he just wants ro free up his schedule? Oh, I feel so badly for you - I would hate hate hate to feel that way about my T. I could if I let myself, could imagine that he is sick of me and my repeat business, and would just love to sink his teeth into an INTERESTING new case. But NO! I am NOT going there. Luckily I can avoid it, I don't know why, but I can.
Do you feel rushed? What does he say to that? I haven't even broached the subject of going to once a month with my T and don't intend to until the idea doesn't make me feel like crying and crawling under my bed.
Miss H/C, I send you hugs, and reassurance. He is not rejecting you, but extending his hand out with you into the world. You and I both will learn to do without that hand, won't we? In our own time. It will always be there, and we can trot back to him and ask for it for a while again.
Now I would like to go and weep for a bit, but I won't. I'll go to the library instead.
ShortE
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