Posted by Rigby on October 25, 2004, at 13:22:41
In reply to Re: my stuff » Rigby, posted by crushedout on October 25, 2004, at 13:12:56
Clamming up and feeling numb are natural and she should be able to help you get through it so you can talk about it.
> she means i clam up, and go numb, and can't really talk about what's going with her anymore. that has happened a few times when we've tried talking about the transference, but we haven't really tried in so long and so it hasn't happened in a long time, either.I guess therapists are people too and maybe some are hard pressed to deal with super intense transferences. I'm not sure. But if your instinct is that there's resistence on her end then chances are you're right. This is what I was saying in terms of therapists being okay enough to get things going (induce transference) but not good enough to help guide a client through it.
If it is hurting you and it sure sounds like it is, don't let up--keep trying even if you do go numb, etc.--don't let it go. You deserve to be out of pain already.
> i'm not sure why she wouldn't be able to handle my feelings about her. she used to be flattered by them. so it seems odd to me that she would avoid it. also, she says we need to find a way to talk about them without me dissociating so she claims not to be avoiding them altogether. like i've said, i'm not sure how much i trust her, so yes, i am suspicious that she's the one who's avoiding the topic, but why would she?
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