Posted by DaisyM on August 26, 2004, at 12:37:22
In reply to Disregarding T Advice..., posted by tryingtobewise on August 25, 2004, at 22:06:34
My therapist is always telling me that "naming it" (identification of stressor) doesn't mean you can just change it. We often know for very long periods of time what we "should" do but can't for so many reasons. It is so much easier to say what should be done than do what should be done.
I think therapy is about support. And you really need support when you are feeling so conflicted. It is the support that eventually will probably lead you to make small changes...and then maybe a big one. You therapist isn't judging you, I'm sure. I'm guessing she knows how hard a job change would be. Give yourself time.
And don't hold back your feelings about your job just because you think, "well, I have no right to complain about my job if I'm not willing to change it." My therapist always says "screw that! complain away! You don't have to reasonable or fair in here." I love that! Makes me feel less guilty about complaining.
take good care
Daisy
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