Posted by Rigby on August 22, 2004, at 12:32:29
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff, posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 20, 2004, at 17:31:52
Hi Miss HC,
Yeah, I also thought it was a tad bit creepy. Especially in the context of finding an example for me of how she bends rules. To me it meant that she herself thinks it's unusual or something to be thinking about a particular client as much as she does.
My gut feel is, as you say, that I'm questioning her boundaries because there is reason to. I think she has to be effortful to do that with me for whatever reason. Part of me just really wants to ask her what the deal is. I wonder if she'd answer honestly.
> The comment about how she thinks a lot about you seems worrisome to me. While it may feel good to hear her say that, it is not professional. I also don't think she should be talking about rule bending.
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> Before my current T, I saw a LCSW for a while and she treated me more like a girlfriend than a client. I really disliked that. I knew I needed strict boundaries and a relationship which was very professional. Others appreciate less strict boundaries and it works for them. So this is just my opinion.
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> To me, when boundaries are crossed and rules are "bent", the therapy is no longer all about you.
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> I have also learned that if you have to question something about boundaries, that usually means they have been crossed and the therapeutic frame has been compromised.
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