Posted by gardenergirl on August 20, 2004, at 22:46:55
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Susan47 on August 20, 2004, at 21:19:40
Rigby,
My thoughts are mixed on this. I think asking the last name might be going a little too far. It seems like it made you uncomfortable, and that, like others said, is a sign to pay attention to. I suppose there are times, though that I have been curious, and perhaps it just got the best of her?Regarding her saying she thinks about you outside of therapy...I don't know if I would tell a client that. But, I do think of clients outside of therapy. It's hard not to, when you love what you do and are stimulated by it. Also if you are still learning, which I think a good T is always doing. That said, I don't think I would frame it like she did. If I had a specific thought I wanted to share with the client, I might say something like "I got to thinking about you and ....". To keep it more focused and specific.
Now, I just have to share an experience I had with my advisor at school that your post reminded me of and perhaps speaks to the dangers of sharing outside life with clients. My advisor told me once when we were having some boundary issues ourselves that he does a lot of his best thinking while in the shower. He then proceeded to tell me an insight he had about our working relationship and recent problems. OMG! He was thinking of me while he was in the shower! was all I could think. Ewwww, the visual image!
Take care,
gg
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