Posted by shortelise on August 9, 2004, at 13:17:55
In reply to You All Are Helping Me » shortelise, posted by corafree on August 9, 2004, at 12:51:00
Yes, Corafree, I do think that this therapy can help you. WIthout meds, if need be. I think meds can really help, too.
Here's the thing: if you can decide that you are going to stick with the therapy come hell or high water, and you do stick with it, your chances of feeling better are pretty good.
What therapy can do is help us understand our behaviour, where it came from, and how to cope. It feels so much better now that I understand where these feelings came from. WHen I am hit with one of those hideous waves, often now I can say, hey, there I go again, and I can stop myself. It's not horrible. It takes time and practice and work - hard emotional work, ups and downs, and a very patient therapist.
Corafree, hear this if you can: you have a choice here.
You can choose to take a chance and commit to this therapy. It's really frightening at first, because of all the ugliness we carry around inside that we're afraid to show anyone,and we think we have to show it all to get better (we don't, by the way. I figured out partway through how invalid some of the worst ugliness was and was able to deal with it alone).
Or you can choose to continue to deal with things as you have all your life. That is a choice, a definite choice.For me , the choice was clear - I couldn't function, couldn't bear my life, couldn't face it anymore, but I didn't want to kill myself either (it's a lousy option, in my opinion).
I asked my therapist over and over again, is it worth it, am I going to feel better, and he told me yes, yes. He didn't lie.
Corafree, trust a little. You are not alone, there are others like you, and a good therapist can help - if you commit to it.
All of this said, I am just another like you, I don't have any basis for what I write other than my own experience.
Hugs
ShortE
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