Posted by antigua on July 29, 2004, at 13:18:05
In reply to Re: For Susan (very long), posted by Susan47 on July 29, 2004, at 11:01:35
Well, on to the next part. (I feel like I'm writing a bad made-for-tv movie).
I did write to him. I poured out my heart, how this was repeating my childhood trauma, yada, yada, yada, and asking why? My T called him repeatedly (she thinks his behavior was reprehensible and she confirmed that he clearly wanted to have nothing to do with me, which increased my shame. I'm sure she's right, though).
The response? Passive-aggressiveness all the way. We all played telephone tag for a few months and NEVER connected. I would return his empty call and he always called me back to leave a message. He never initiated a call, it was only to return mine AND NEVER TO ACTUALLY SPEAK TO ME. I swear, this guy must have known my daily schedule he was so accurate at missing me. I finally felt that I had been humilated enough. I wasn't going to beg anymore.
So nothing's resolved, except I felt like more of a fool for my violent reaction. It was an accurate reaction to my situation, but he waited me out and won.
anything else?
antigua
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