Posted by antigua on July 27, 2004, at 16:45:35
In reply to Scared to be honest about something with T, posted by Racer on July 27, 2004, at 12:35:56
Racer, it seems to me that you're back in the same pattern--of whether or not you are willing to take the risk. The risk hasn't worked out very well for you (or me for that matter) at times and you need to decide if you do trust her enough. Even though that's always part of the process (trusting your T), I think we can still hold onto a bit of it to save ourselves. I've trusted and been hurt many times, but I've trusted and been helped as well, so I guess I have a "sliding scale" of trust that I work within. I'm usually an all or nothing person, and when I last trusted a T (not my current one, whom I trust absolutely) I jumped in w/both feet, w/o checking to see if the water would burn me. And I was burnt badly. Sometimes I think I'll never learn.
Maybe you just need to tell her so that you've told someone. She will help you if you can, and I can only repeat the same thing I tell myself over and over again--there aren't any surprises. They've heard so many stories and are trained to respect you.
Just my rambling.
best,
antigua
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