Posted by gardenergirl on July 27, 2004, at 16:19:40
In reply to Re: Confused gardenergirl, posted by vwoolf on July 27, 2004, at 13:52:52
> Thank you so much for your kind, thoughtful answer. I know I need to let go and trust my therapist, and I think I really want to, but it is such a leap of faith!
Yes, it truly is. I hope you can someday make that leap, and in the meantime, I hope you can talk to her about how hard it is to trust.
> I thought back to the way I used to behave towards my mother, and it suddenly struck me that this is exactly what I do with my therapist. The poor woman really will throw me out if I go on like this much longer.
I think this is an important insight. And by the way, I was horrible to my mother as a teen, too. I wonder if your statement that your T will eventually throw you out is related to your own experience. Did you worry that your mom would throw you out? Or did she actually ask you to leave? It's so common to expect your T to behave the same way. But she won't throw you out. I feel quite sure about that.
> Did you feel enormous hostility towards them?
I can't say that I've felt hostility towards any of my clients. None that I can remember. And definitely not towards the more challenging ones. Like someone else said (I think pegasus?), I was usually enthused about working with them.
Take care,
gg
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