Posted by starlight on July 23, 2004, at 17:13:19
In reply to Starlight, posted by Susan47 on July 23, 2004, at 15:45:30
They were all single. I've dated two married men in my life, one that I knew was married and one that I didn't.
The married guy was very exciting at first. He was a doctor (OB/GYN) and wealthy and we dated for a few months. It was glamorous in the way that he treated me, the places he took me too and his lovemaking, but eventually I realized it was pretty worthless and he was worthless too and I dropped him. And the second guy fooled me into thinking that he was single, but I eventually put two and two together and got rid of that jerk also. Both times I was in my early twenties and kind of in that exploratory stage and the first married guy pursued me relentlessly. Those experiences turned me off to dating married guys completely.
I guess I don't judge either Jadah or the doc in this situation because some people think that it would be better if we arrived with certain rules completely ingrained in us that we never strayed from, but that's just not the truth. In many ways it's trial and error, and we hope that we'll make the right choices, but sometimes we don't. We can walk away from our wrong choices and in the end be better people for even making those wrong choices. This whole journey is just a set of experiences that we choose to make along the way, some work, some don't, some hurt, some make us feel good, some dark, some light, some yin, some yang.
Who knows - maybe Jadah's therapist is frustrated with his own life and while we'd like to hold therapists/doctors to the highest of standards and hope that he would leave his wife or deal with his family problems head on, evidently he didn't. He chose to deal with them by acting out - which a lot of people do. Just because he's a therapist doesn't preclude him from making bad choices.
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