Posted by Susan47 on July 22, 2004, at 19:25:53
In reply to For Starlight(last message for you too), posted by Susan47 on July 22, 2004, at 19:04:27
...but I just realized that there's a difference between "wanting" somone and truly being in love. A T should definitely know the difference. If a T is in love, s/he has to do the right thing by the person they're in love with. I know it's idealistic, but that's what we try to build a good personality on, isn't it? In my definition, doing the right thing would be difficult but rewarding. It would mean making good choices. Having an affair with a client is not a good choice, and therefore not the right thing to do. Making a choice to be with the client in a real relationship which isn't threatened by anything, that's a good choice. Deciding to stay with your family and be honest with your client about that is a good choice.
I think as patients, or clients, we need to realize that we also deserve good things in our life. And we deserve much more than just an affair with our T.
Which is why I had to stop seeing mine; I wanted him too much.
I think if a T really wants a patient that way, he better start working on himself and his life.
Thanks for reading my psychobabble.
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