Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 11:43:17
In reply to Re: Matt DDS? Other CBT'ers? » Dinah, posted by AuntieMel on July 23, 2004, at 11:31:54
I still think that ignores sociological truths about human beings. Certainly the lady at the supermarket shouldn't upset you *as much* as your husband. But in a species that relies on communal living, the community *does* affect us. And I don't think it's reasonable to be totally unaffected by the lizard woman, or to consider our reaction to be our sole responsibility. The lizard woman needs to accept some responsibility too. That's why the woman at the supermarket who called you a lizard would probably get community censure from other shoppers, unless you had done something lizardly. In which case, reaction might be mixed. And if the lizard lady had a habit of going around calling perfect strangers lizards, her social life is probably limited, because society does hold people responsible for their behavior, and for good reason. (Unless the lizard lady is a lizard school-aged kid, in which case the school aged kid community would probably hail her as the height of cool, and anyone she called a lizard would be ostracized.)
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