Posted by AuntieMel on July 23, 2004, at 11:31:54
In reply to Re: Matt DDS? Other CBT'ers? » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 10:51:05
Sticks and stones theory: you are right. Words do have the power to hurt, probably worse than physical pain. But the degree of hurt should vary depending on who says them.
If your husband came home and called you a lizard, you would be very hurt because you have a close relationship. In a way he would have responsibility for you mood
Where having control over your reactions comes in (to me) is when the lady behind you at the grocery store calls you a lizard. If the reaction is the same as when it is someone close to you, then the mood *is* your responsibility. And that's where CBT can come in.
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