Posted by tabitha on June 23, 2004, at 12:18:22
In reply to Re: Prodigal therapy client returns » fallsfall, posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2004, at 6:58:04
> I'm glad the break was helpful and not a way of punishing yourself.
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> I think your anger is totally valid, and I would definitely want to push the issue of having her admit that she was wrong about your take on the other woman in the group. Your instincts were correct, and she needs to acknowledge that.You don't know Miss Pollyanna. She'll have some weird take on it. She may not give an inch. But at least I can tell her I really really need for her to acknowledge that I might be a little bit correct. Then we can talk about that.
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> I also understand wanting to "mess with her head" because she has done that so much with you by deflecting your anger at her as anger at your parents, dog, mailman, anything but her. So, you've been carrying around this problem that she is responsible for, and you want to give her a fair share of the pain. Maybe instead of doing so you could tell her this is what you wanted to do? That could be more productive. (That's my disclaimer because sometimes I like passive aggressive solutions, so it's probably wise to take my comments with a grain of salt.)I'm usually scrupulously open and honest with her. I just don't hide much. So for me to even think about using some dishonest strategy.. well it just shows how angry I am. I'd probably have no success at all with trying to mess with her head. After 5 minutes I'd blurt out all my true feelings. I'm not much of a poker player either.
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> Good luck, and good for you for hanging in there.Thank you Aprodite.
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