Posted by DaisyM on May 31, 2004, at 23:19:02
In reply to Re: Comments on Appearance in Therapy » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Pfinstegg on May 31, 2004, at 20:45:58
My Therapist has commented on my appearance only twice -- the fir. st time I arrived in jeans, after six months in business attire and once when I was really, really dressed up after giving a speech.
I would find it hard to respond to comments on my appearance unless I asked first. But if it was something I was working on, I'm sure he would be willing to offer supportive comments. Or at least question closely my motives for wanting to change stuff.
In my business, we work with lots of kinds of families. With new home visitors we often remind them that if someone thinks you can make a judgement positively (a compliment) then they might also assume that you can judge negatively. So we are careful with compliments. I would guess the same holds true in therapy.
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