Posted by Pfinstegg on May 31, 2004, at 20:45:58
In reply to Comments on Appearance in Therapy, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 31, 2004, at 20:20:02
I couldn't agree with you more! My T. never makes any comments about my appearance, which doesn't actually change that much, although my feelings about it range from feeling pretty to feeling really unattractive- all due to inner feelings of mine, not to objective reality.
He doesn't actually give many compliments at all. Rarely, he'll praise something I did in the past, saying it showed strength, courage or generosity, but he doesn't offer any compliments or appraisals of anything going on in the present between us. I think I like it that way; he is very much *there* for me emotionally in our interactions- that is what means so much to me. A compliment might even seem a little distancing!
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