Posted by tabitha on May 7, 2004, at 0:46:20
In reply to Re: Contemplating divorce » tabitha, posted by crushedout on May 6, 2004, at 21:43:52
Well I'm still a sobbing wreck, but I made it through the session. She said something like that when she's not meeting my needs, like last session, it doesn't mean the caring is gone. That meant a lot to me.
She explained more how she's been trying to challenge my negative thoughts, that she says are the Critical Parent, but I told her I identify with those thoughts so much it feels like she's attacking ME and trying to destroy ME. We agreed about that much. I told her how hard it is for me to separate that voice and recognize it. I asked if we're trying to kill her, and she said no, we're trying to clean her glasses, so she won't see the past so much, and then she'll turn into Compassionate Parent. I really thought we were trying to destroy her. I feel better about re-training her to be Compassionate Parent. I told her it feels like a lot of my strength is tied up with those negative thoughts, and she said that Critical Parent is trying to protect me. I don't think I've ever heard anything nice about Critical Parent. It feels better to not think she's some evil aberration that must be destroyed.
Those were the key things. I'm still not looking forward to the group, but I'm going to try not to think about it until next week.
Thanks so much for all your posts. Being able to vent here and get some different perspectives keeps me from going over the edge between sessions. This stuff is so difficult.
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