Posted by Dinah on May 6, 2004, at 9:34:38
In reply to Contemplating divorce, posted by tabitha on May 6, 2004, at 1:48:06
((((Tabitha))))
No, of course it isn't worth destroying yourself. It's fine to learn new options and new ways of seeing things, but the result should always leave the essential *you* in place. Besides, I'm awfully fond of Tabitha just as you are.
There probably should be a fine balance there somewhere. Where the change isn't overly violent.
I wish I had ideas on how to find it. :(
You've been with this therapist a long time though, and she's important to you, I know. Can you try to help her see how this is making you feel and do some alliance restoration and the therapy version of couples work before you decide?
poster:Dinah
thread:343899
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