Posted by lucy stone on April 25, 2004, at 13:03:52
In reply to Re: Online Book from Paul Vereshack » tinydancer, posted by crushedout on April 25, 2004, at 8:18:41
I am very interested in this topic because I also fantasize about my T holding me. I have a very powerful "comforting" fantasy that involves being held by a comforting older male while I am crying. I have had it since I was a an adolescent and talk about endlessly in therapy. My T has made it clear that he will under no circumstances play out the fantasy physically. I can go anywhere I want in fantasy but it cannot cross the line into the physical. I keep trying to find ways to manipulate him into doing it but I know it will never happen. I do occaisionally get a hug but I will not ask for one more than once every few months. I know this is for the best because the reality of his holding me would never match what I experience in the fantasy. The reality would be that it would be akward and embarassing and I am much better working it through by talking than by putting it into reality. Knowing that it will never happen with him keeps me safe, but it doesn't stop the longing! I looked at the online book, and while it is applealing to me on some level I can see how it could be dangerous if not done correctly. I think that therapists using this technique would have to be highly trained and experinced and the patients would have to be carefully selected. I would be very cautious of any T using these techniques who didn't know what s/he was doing. I was also put off by his statement that he wouldn't hold fat people. It makes me suspicious of the whole thing, like maybe he is getting some sexual jollies out of it.
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