Posted by Racer on April 19, 2004, at 8:56:50
In reply to Re: it turned into horrible emotional problems, posted by 1980Monroe on April 18, 2004, at 23:20:39
NO! You don't want someone to Fix you and make your interests NORMAL -- you want to integrate your interests and your personality in such a way that you're no longer conflicted about them.
This is Real Life, not some sort of Stepford Wives thing. You want to be YOU -- with your own interests, with your own quirks, you just don't want to have all the distress that your inner conflicts cause. You want to be able to get through the rest of school and out into the world with YOU intact and happy, and that's very possible. But it's not about 'fixing' you and making your interests normal. I can't stress that enough. If you're interested in something, then that is NORMAL for YOU.
My mother taught me to sew when I was about in kindergarten. When I finally graduated to the sewing machine, at around 10, the first thing I *had* to do was figure out how the lockstitch worked. This was an old fashioned machine in an old fashioned cabinet, so it took a while to trace through the mechanisms to figure it out. Guess what? That's normal. That's OK. Running vacuum cleaners is not that unusual for 4 year olds -- trust me on this one -- and machines in general are fascinating to a lot of young people. Just say that you *have* interests, and then go find help in getting over your worries about that.
Half the problems I saw with the kids I worked with is that a lot of young people never develop ANY interests whatsoever. Think about how empty those lives are? We all need interests, so you're ahead of the game.
Good luck.
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