Posted by fallsfall on April 7, 2004, at 8:38:03
In reply to bubba makes me ANGRY!!!!, posted by karen_kay on April 6, 2004, at 20:54:49
Karen,
Bubba was absolutely wrong.
Let's talk about this group for a minute. Where were all the rest of the people? What are the rules of the group? Groups I have been in required a commitment on my part for a particular period of time - I was required to be there (if I didn't come I still had to pay). Groups only work if there is continuity. Second, I have never been in a process group (as opposed to a skills training group) where new members have showed up unannounced. Usually, the therapist would mention 2 or 3 weeks ahead of time that they were talking with a potential new member - and we had a chance to prepare ourselves for someone new coming in.
I hate to say it, Karen, but these are further examples of inexperience, and how his inexperience can hurt you.
I can't believe that he backed out on your individual appointment. (I'm trying to shut my mouth, but it is still hanging open in amazement)
I think that you would make really good use of therapy with an experienced therapist. I hope that you will give yourself that opportunity.
P.S. a teenager leaving home will often make her parents so mad - because it is easier to leave when you are both angry. Maybe this is your opportunity.
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