Posted by karen_kay on April 6, 2004, at 20:54:49
ohhhhhhhhh, i'm so mad right now i can't see. and it took me about 10 hours to get mad too. i called yesterday to cancel group because i've been depressed. i didn't want to go. instead bubba suggested an individual session afterwards. so, i made it there, with NO makeup. (clue bubba, big clue) there was a new girl and me, that's all that showed up, perhaps that's why he wanted me to go? in the session, the new girl mentioned she was dx borderline and i snapped my neck at bubba and said (as i constantly question him about my dx) "do you hand that dx out to every girl our age?" this started a huge debate between them. he got red-faced and even admitted to being upset and having a "complex" about being right and challenged. i smiled a couple of times. bubba turned to me and asked "how are you feeling?" i said "amused" and said to the girl, "not at your expense dear." i was glad that someone questioned him about it. i was glad that she was able to convey what i was not. and i was glad i was able to be amused for the time being.
after the session, i said, "so, are we going to our individual session now?" bubba said, "well, you appear to be better. i want to keep everything in group and don't want to wear myself thin. i'll see you next week."
so, i guess i'm not really depresssed, eh? since i was smiling and all. i suppose it's just completely impossible to smile when you see your therapist make a mule out of himself while you're depressed? thanks bubba, for proving once again that your feelings are SO much more important than mine!
even my old man is upset. that takes a lot. he did say i shouldn't have pointed out about the dx in front of the girl (pardon me??). but, he's going to defend my honor tomorrow and go beat bubba up.
now, please tell me, am i wrong on this? he messed up here, right? it's ok to smile and still have an apt, right? he was letting the challenging get in the way, correct? i'm honestly considering not going back. i'm tired of his horse sh!t emotions, as i've enough of my own. and i entered into this process group under the assumption that i could have an individual session when i needed it, not be punished if i point something out. i honestly wasn't trying to start something. just pointing out a concern.
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