Posted by tinydancer on April 5, 2004, at 11:25:46
In reply to who has hugged there T's? or anything else?, posted by obSession on April 4, 2004, at 17:26:13
I have never hugged my T. I've asked before, and he was very thoughtful before giving me the inevitable "no" answer. He knows that I have pretty strong feelings for him, and he also knows my history of being betrayed and misused by men, so I think he uses extreme caution for fear of creating a feeling of betrayal in me and therein tainting the great therapeutic relationship we have now. I've talked to him about how touch is important and natural and he agrees completely but doesn't want to jump into anything. It is very hard. I don't always feel the need for touch from him, because I'm a non-toucher myself, and usually don't like others touching me either, but occasionally I feel so alone and because of who he is to me, a simple touch can turn the world around for me.
The one time I asked for a hug, he held my hand instead, which was nice but not the same, obviously. When we talked about a hug he asked what kind of hug I had in mind. "A business hug type thing?" he asked. " Oh noooooo...I would go for as good as it gets!" I yelled out.
Haha...
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