Posted by Dinah on April 4, 2004, at 20:00:41
In reply to Who, me? » noa, posted by Racer on April 4, 2004, at 14:53:49
I think it's perfectly normal to be scared before meeting someone and entering into an intimate relationship. And given your previous experience, there's probably some self protection in not being too excited about it.
Pfinstegg is right in that trust was a major issue for me, and that I fought my way to a secure attachment with my therapist. I can't say that it instantly felt right either. At first it just felt like I had no choice. But now I really think it was a good match for me, however haphazardly I fell into it.
Can you just be honest about the feelings you're having? That you're feeling anxious because you had a good experience with one therapist, and ended up losing her, and a not so great "fit" with the replacement so that you're reeling a bit right now. Then at least the new therapist will have some sort of idea why you might be a bit wary.
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