Posted by fallsfall on April 4, 2004, at 13:29:11
In reply to Re: contemplating termination » fallsfall, posted by crushedout on April 4, 2004, at 10:32:46
She was concerned about my dependence. So much so that she talked to her supervision group. They recommended that if I was less dependent in 3 months then she should reduce sessions to every other week. If I was not less dependent in 3 months that she should terminate me.
I agreed that if I was still that miserable in 3 months that it would be time to go.
But I decided to leave before that. (1 month into the 3 month period?) I told her that I was leaving and why. She heard a completely different reason (because "she had taught me all she knew") and said it was fine. I started the search. When I was close to picking my new therapist we had a session when I realized that she hadn't known that I had been completely miserable for the previous 4 months (incredibly, intensely, to the point of being suicidal miserable). I haven't seen her since.
So, whose idea was it? Technically it was mine.
I suggest that you tell your therapist that you will look for a new therapist, not that you are quitting therapy. (and I would suggest that you do so). Tell her the real reasons. If she argues with you, make sure that she has YOUR best interests at heart.
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