Posted by KindGirl on April 4, 2004, at 0:15:25
In reply to contemplating termination » Dinah, posted by crushedout on April 3, 2004, at 22:08:44
My t. seems to come from a completely different approach than most I have read about here. I asked her a few weeks ago about the posts here on whether or not we had pictures of our t's. Remember that thread? Well most of you wrote that you had no photos of your t's other than ones you downloaded, and I have 2 pictures of mine. She is very open to holding me and hugs and calls in between sessions...all that....and her response to what I shared about Babble was she said, "I have very flexible boundaries. Some therapists do, some don't. You won't cross a boundary here with me, so don't worry. I am not worried about it." And she also talked about "attachment theory." I think this is the opposite of Freud...she sees nothing wrong with me attaching to her, of me declaring my love for her and that I miss her all the time. She said that I never attached properly with my mother (that is an understatement) and that I need to learn to attach and to be loved this way in order to heal. She also says that she will always be in my life, even after termination, she will give me a phone number to reach her even after she retires.
Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo....I guess I am saying that I agree with so many of you in that "how can this be good? I think about my t all the time?".....and I think I hear my t. saying this is a good sign, this is on the path toward healthy relationships, healthy love....there is nothing wrong with it, she tells me. Now, in your case or in everyone else's case it might be the complete opposite. I am fiercely independent and rely on nobody and have been this way all my life, so I see my t's point in showing me I need to learn to ask for help and to be able to receive it.
Hope this didn't piss anyone off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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