Posted by Racer on April 2, 2004, at 18:11:02
In reply to No where to go from here (rambling), posted by mair on April 2, 2004, at 16:43:43
Yucko! That's not exactly helpful, is it? My advice, beyond "do as I say, not as I do," is to try to use this as an exercise in moving past the problem, rather than running away from it.
In this case, you could bring up the fact that you're really feeling painted into a corner with only one escape because of this situation, that the problem itself wasn't that big a deal until she started pressing on it, but now the pressing is a big deal and you're feeling yourself withdraw. (Warning: projection to follow, use only what's useful to you.) You might tell her that her assumption that, since you don't want to discuss it, it must be important feels invalidating to you; or that you feel as if the issue has driven a wedge between you that is now hindering your free expression within the therapy sessions. Maybe you could talk about your experience of conflict over whether to be true to your own feelings and needs or to accommodate her apparent need to discuss this issue BECAUSE you're not ready to do so.
Them's just some ideas. I hope something in there helps. Good luck
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