Posted by 64Bowtie on March 26, 2004, at 18:34:17
In reply to Re: 99% of conflicts are at the feelings level, posted by DaisyM on March 26, 2004, at 17:37:35
(((Daisy))),
Johnny Carson had a TV gameshow in the afternoons called, "Who Do You Trust?" That's the rub for me. I am bucking trust with new (avoidable) information, not even sure how to say it. I keep rehashing the same stuff over and over again and look, you are hanging in there after 4 months.
Like I mentioned: turn off "something" for 24 hours and see what you learn. Don't expect anything. Just pay attention. Learn what you can for yourself, not for me or anyone else. That might be the mistake you've made in the past, assuming that someone else is better at living your life than you are. Not so! You are best at knowing what's good for you. You are "enough" and always have been!
Take three days of your busy life to devote to yourself:
***List three things that always cause pain in your life. Avoid, ignore, abstain from them for the next 24 hours. Write in a journal or email me what you learn along the way.
***List three things that always cause pleasure in your life. Avoid, ignore, abstain from them for the next 24 hours. Write in a journal or email me what you learn along the way.
***List three things that are just not right in your life. Avoid, ignore, abstain from grumbling, complaining, and passing judgement on them for 24 hours (if you can...). Write in a journal or email me what you learn along the way.
Do these first three drills and you will discover what a hold (blackmail) your feelings have over your behavior. Your gut is holding you hostage and your life is worth more than that!!!Rod
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