Posted by DaisyM on March 19, 2004, at 19:51:16
In reply to Re: crash after a great week » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 19, 2004, at 18:17:37
Next time we'll use Babble Open. I should have thought of it before.
I don't think you are silly at all! I don't bring in threads because I feel exposed too. But I might talk about "a friend" if I need to clarify something that was said to me here.
My Therapist says "your needs are your needs, just like your feelings are your feelings. You don't always get your needs met, and that is OK. But it doesn't make you bad for having them in the first place." Which is reassuring because I'm aghast that I have this dependency thing going on at all. You should believe the same thing about your self and your needs. You are allowed to have needs and wants. You shouldn't have to worry about her reaction to your truths. It sounds like you are trying to find a way to own what is clearly her stuff. You've switch from "needing" her to "blaming" her in your descriptions. I'm not criticizing, just pointing out that this may truly be all about her. And that makes it hard for you but not your fault. Blaming her actually would be something you would expect her to be able to handle. It is transference in its purest form. *sigh* I wish it wasn't so hard for you.
Maybe it might be time to stop trying to figure it out, have a rest, go to happy hour, dinner or the movies. Taking your mind off of therapy for awhile and live your life. Come back to it fresh. Enjoy the weekend.
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