Posted by Dinah on March 19, 2004, at 10:48:47
In reply to Re: crash after a great week » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 19, 2004, at 9:15:15
Crushed, my therapist said something similar to me once. And my response was the same. "Boy, you're in the wrong business." But he got past it, and relatively quickly. I don't think I changed that time. He did. And because he quit fighting my neediness, I quit feeling so needy.
I'm not sure I learned anything to take into the real world from that. First of all, in the real world, I don't cling or need. Second, I think it's a normal human reaction to cling to what you need when you feel it pulling away. If it quits pulling away you quit clinging. I think in the real world, the person wouldn't have quit pulling away and the relationship would have ended.
I think it will be a wonderful thing for you to learn to overcome this pattern in your life, if you recognize it as a pattern. But it might also be helpful to see the other person's part of the pattern too. Do you typically choose people who pull away at signs of neediness? Perhaps it might be helpful for you not only to recognize what you do in a relationship, but also who you choose in a relationship.
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