Posted by Rigby on February 26, 2004, at 23:59:16
In reply to Needing Your Therapist/Cycles, posted by DaisyM on February 26, 2004, at 23:43:08
Hi Daisy,
Your therapist sounds *great.*
I can understand you wondering if, when the drama and intensity fade, things will change somehow but, like any I think good relationship, the person will be there for the intense times and the less intense times. Relationships, therapy included I think, are made up of ebbs and flows. It's a good model for relationships working outside the therapy room too to have confidence that someone can be there for the tough times as well as the better times. Relationships only based upon drama are for me sort of fake--and in some ways you don't get to know the whole person--only the person in crisis.
I felt amazingly connected to my therapist at first and there was a pretty strong attraction between us. It was intense. And I think the attraction for both of us was in some way connected to that pure intensity. But that had its season and she reeled in her boundaries and then things, over time, calmed down. Then several months ago I had a few weeks of intensity but that calmed down after about a week or two and it's been quite low key now. My experience is the more you face the dependency head-on with your therapist, the harder it feels at the time but the faster you get through it--it's freeing too.
Anyway, it sounds like you're doing *great*--congrats!!!!
Rigby
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