Posted by antigua on February 23, 2004, at 9:40:41
In reply to Re: I'd appreciate input from all, by the way: Din, posted by Pfinstegg on February 22, 2004, at 16:53:01
Wow. Your first post to Dinah above really hit a nerve with me. Have you been peeking in on my life?
Fear keeps me from accomplishing everything that I am fully capable of--it keeps me from being as successful professionally as I could be. Not so much in terms of my personal life. Like many here, the abuse has stopped with me and while my children will certainly have their own issues, they do have a pretty happy, normal, non-chaotic childhood. I couldn't be happier for them, and I know that I've devoted the last 15 years of my life to them and now it's time to shift the attention and care over to me.
I've been working on the fear for a long time, and I do see progress. And I'm not giving up until I feel right about it. I do feel sad for all the lost opportunities in my life, but I'm trying not to focus on that and instead focus on the good in my life.
Yes, I do believe people can change and I think I'm living proof, as is my husband. We've both changed so much from those young idealistic teenagers, but we have found a way to grow up together and love each other even more. It's certainly not easy, but I know that when the kids head off to college, it's back to the two of us again. I'm probably guilty of not paying enough attention to my husband; it's easier to focus on the kids.
I could write more, but thank you very much. I appreciate all of your posts on this thread.
antigua
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