Posted by Dinah on February 22, 2004, at 17:32:09
In reply to Re: I'd appreciate input from all, by the way: Din, posted by Pfinstegg on February 22, 2004, at 16:53:01
All good questions. I do tend to practice radical acceptance perhaps a bit too much. I don't believe I've ever had the experience of anyone in my life changing significantly, so it's not something that I even consider. I just work around things.
A couple of months ago I gave my therapist leave to challenge me more. A couple of weeks later I took it back. In the end, I was unable to sacrifice my safe space for growth. And perhaps that's the underlying theme to most of what you mentioned. I'm unwilling to jeopardize my feeling of security, however tenuous, for *anything*. I could liven up therapy considerably by telling him to challenge me more again, and he'd be delighted as he was then. But I'm not sure I'm willing to risk losing my safe space...
Now that's not true of the job issue. Even my therapist encourages me to stay put there. Unfortunately my job is ideally suited to my skills, talents, and many of my weaknesses. And I'm temperamentally unsuited to the "people" jobs I'd like to have. So he discourages me from that path. And I think he's probably right...
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