Posted by pinkeye on February 20, 2004, at 18:00:50
In reply to Re: This powerful attraction - here to stay? » pinkeye, posted by DaisyM on February 20, 2004, at 17:17:49
> Don't you think it is because the therapy setting is so intimate and so isolated from the real world? Think about what we get: total attention to OUR problems, no need to take care of this other person, no need to allow for bad days, bad moods or unpleasant physical attributes, if you know what I mean. Of course it might feel romantic. The attentiveness is something we don't get very many places.
Well yes, that is true. I might have it exaggerated because of the therapy setting. But you know what, just being around him, just looking at the way he feels about things, just by his own qualities, I feel so good. And so many of my faulty conceptions of life have gone away just because of his association. I feel I would have been in love with him wherever I might have met him. He is the type .. Sigh !!! .And both of us are physically, age wise, compatible as well. We had such a good time together during some of our sessions.
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> I'm glad you have a good husband. I might suggest that maybe you plan the romance, not wait for him too. I think maybe I sometimes forget to list my husband's good qualities when I think about what he doesn't do.
>I have never felt very romantically attracted to my husband. It was always a good friendship and that was all. Now I need to know some magic to bring in some feelings of romance into it. This compared with so much of romantic feelings that I have for my therapist is making me long too much.
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