Posted by DaisyM on February 20, 2004, at 14:51:09
In reply to This powerful attraction - here to stay?, posted by pinkeye on February 19, 2004, at 16:17:35
You have an idealized version of him in your head. Like our first loves from high school, or an MD who saves us, or someone we love, those feelings emerge. So, yes, you may always feel some of those feelings.
As long as it doesn't get painful, like unrequitted love, then I wouldn't worry about it. Fantasy can be a good thing. But if it starts eating at you, wishing you could makes something happen, like force a meeting, etc., you might want to overlay some reality on your fantasy.
I don't have the experience of ending therapy (yet!) to compare feelings about, but in reading other posts here, it seems there is a wide variety of feelings after ending. Some still longing for the connection and support, others who seem to have a sweet, deep caring that they carry but aren't overwhelmed with.
Hang in there. Romantic love was never meant to be sustained. Husbands require work...lots and lots and lots of work...
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