Posted by crushedout on February 19, 2004, at 7:45:48
In reply to Re: Seriously considering firing my T tomorrow » crushedout, posted by fallsfall on February 19, 2004, at 7:32:21
Thank you so much for sharing all of that, fallsfall. It was helpful for me.
I really don't think it's the attraction that's gotten in the way. There are two things on her end that I think may be making her act inappropriately with me: (1) she over-identifies with me and (2) she feels the need to take care of me. And when I called her over the weekend after I had a horrible fight with my mother, she didn't call me back, which I thought was weird. She emailed me the next day saying she "couldn't" call me but that I could email her about it. This felt to me like a sort of arbitrary boundary she was setting up and didn't really make sense to me.
On Tuesday, when I saw her, she blurted out a bunch of stuff about how my issues with my mother were so much like her issues with her mother. And then for some reason she told me that because of the way her mother treated her, she gets mad when people need her.
Isn't that a weird thing for a therapist to tell a client?
And that's only the beginning. So, I'm guessing that has something to do with why she's being so hard on me this week. I guess she's mad at me for needing her. But that seems like a real problem.
Anyway, I'll let you know what happens as soon as I'm capable of talking about it. I'm anticipating possibly being a total mess.
crushed
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