Posted by Karen_kay on February 4, 2004, at 12:12:32
In reply to Im so frustrated with everything!!!!, posted by Pandabear on February 3, 2004, at 19:59:35
(((pandabear)))
I don't know how many of my friends have said, "I'm so tired of hearing about Bubba, can we please talk aobut something else?" And yet I persist on talking about him. When my mother came to visit me, I started discussing Bubba, my therapist and my boyfriend becames upset. My mother said, "When you find a doctor, nurse therapist, ect that helps you, that person means the world to you. It is very common that you talk about that person." If your therapist is helping you in some way, of course you are going to talk about him/her! That person is a huge part of your life!
I think it is very important that you continue seeing your therapist. Just because you talk about him/her doesn't mean you devote your life to therapy or the therapist in general. Actually, you gave me a great idea and I want to see how others view me as well! Thank you for that.
Not going to your appointments won't prove anything. Actually going and working on the things that you want to change about yourself says so much more about you as a person. You did a great thing. It's so hard to ask others what they honestly think. And it's even harder to try to change the things aobut yourself that you wnat to. I applaud you! Go to therapy (with a normal attachment) and change the things that YOU think are unhealthy. And if you friends think that you talk too much about your therapist, or are too dependent, tell them to start therapy and see how much they would be dependent on someone who changes their lives.
Remember, a certain amount of dependency is healthy. Ask your therapist if you have a healthy attachment. My friends think that I'm too attached, but according to my therapist, he wants to form a more emotional attachment... See, your friends aren't the experts..
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