Posted by Penny on February 4, 2004, at 8:42:57
In reply to Im so frustrated with everything!!!!, posted by Pandabear on February 3, 2004, at 19:59:35
I've gotten the "you're too dependent on your therapist" speech more times than I can count. My response was not, however, to see less of her, but to stop talking to 'them' (whoever was giving me the speech) about her.
I really really think that the people who are saying this to you don't understand therapy at all. Some of them may have even been in therapy, but until they've experienced transference to the level that many of us here on this board have, they can't possibly understand. And I think that by cancelling your sessions with your T, you are, in a way, perhaps giving them and their opinions (*opinions - not facts*) more power over you and your decisions than they deserve.
Do you feel dependent on your therapist? Do you feel a need to see her frequently? Do you trust in her treatment methods (at least most of the time)? Do you feel she has your best interest at heart? If so, then you need to follow your gut and try to not worry about what others - who aren't in that room with you! - say about your therapy.
I think, as GG said, that you should discuss this with your T. You said you've cancelled the appointments with her - have you actually spoken with her? And, if so, were you honest about why you were cancelling?
I know this is a difficult time, but it's times like this that you need her support more, not less.
P
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