Posted by Sabina on February 3, 2004, at 14:09:22
In reply to today in therapy..ashamed of myself..., posted by Pandabear on February 2, 2004, at 19:10:23
even though it was for a different problem in the beginning, it was a still proactive mindset that brought you into therapy and i admire the strength it's taken for you to face this unflattering aspect of yourself. i also consider it a blessing <gasp> for your future. it would have been so easy for you to go on with your life blaming others without exploring your role in the patterns of these failed friendships.
i'm sorry you're hurting now. you're *not* a reject.
you just want so much from a relationship that most people can't keep up. that doesn't make you a bad person or a bad friend, and it's *not* all your fault. your former friends should have communicated more effectively with you, learned to set limits, etc. instead of simply being rude and shutting you out. when trying to make friends in the future, maybe therapy can help with these strategies.
good luck.
poster:Sabina
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