Posted by gardenergirl on January 29, 2004, at 23:45:18
In reply to Wondering About Therapy, posted by Lonely on January 29, 2004, at 23:34:05
I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a T like that. I'm so sorry for your loss and the subsequent struggle to find someone else with whom you can develop a therapeutic relationship.
Can you say a little more about the dual relationship anxiety? I am a little confused about that.
But based on what you did post, I wonder what orientation your T's have been. You sound as if you would like a more client-centered approach or perhaps even psychodynamic. Either way, it sounds as if the relationship is most important to you rather than any specific advice given to you. You might ask your current T what her orientation is and how she describes your problem. This may give you insight into whether or not she "gets it." If not, you can help her to understand better what is going on with you and what you are looking for in a T.
Remember, this is YOUR therapy. She is working for you, and you are entitled to ask for what you need. If she is unable to provide it for you, perhaps when you are again able to change T's you can ask for a referral to someone who's orientation and practice is more suited to what you are looking for?
I wish you the best. It sounds like it has been a difficult road lately. Good luck.
gg
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