Posted by pegasus on January 27, 2004, at 14:54:07
In reply to Lookdownfish- maritial angst update, posted by Poet on January 26, 2004, at 13:43:33
It seems like this is one of those things that works differently for every couple. But if it's any help, what my husband and I have settled on is that the day after a session, we have a "therapy report" where I tell him what I talked about with my therapist. It keeps him up on what I'm working on, and less threatened by the mysteriousness of it. Plus, it's given him some confidence in my therapist. His favorite part is that we have this one time during the week that I talk about my therapy, and then I really don't need to talk about it much other than that. So, he has some control over our communication about that. Also, then I give him a chance to give me a report about whatever he wants. It's actually a really sweet time for us.
I know this wouldn't work for everyone, and there are definitely things I leave out of my report sometimes, but it does seem to help me feel supported, and him feel supportive without being overwhelmed.
-p
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