Posted by pegasus on January 7, 2004, at 13:32:17
In reply to Why my therapist is mad at me - this time, posted by Dinah on January 6, 2004, at 22:42:39
I agree so much with what everyone else is saying. Dinah, you are wonderfully helpful and kind, from what I've seen here. And anyway everyone has their annoying moments. And your T was probably speaking (slightly inappropriately) out of frustration about something that he was misunderstanding anyway. My therapist has mentioned being annoyed at me (although always in a specific context - e.g., "I was annoyed when you did that."). It sucks, even though I don't think I generally am an annoying person. And, hell, he annoys me all the time. And it's ok. Annoying people and being annoyed by them is part of life, and a good relationship can contain those moments, as well as the times when you just connect like legos.
Which is not to trivialize how much it sucks when someone really important to you is annoyed or angry. Especially when he tells you about it. For me, that's the biggest SI trigger, and it sounds like you're having trouble in that arena as well. Please try to keep yourself safe, maybe by reading all of these posts about how much everyone here disagrees with your therapist. I love the idea of you telling him that it was really hard to hear him say that you were annoying. Maybe this will lead to some productive therapy, or relationship building anyway. I hope. I'll be thinking about you today.
-p
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